“Pay yourself first!” is a term most associated with “saving”. The philosophy is no matter how many bills you have to pay if you don’t build the habit of paying yourself first before anyone else you will never learn how to save. This absolutely is the only difference between who build wealth and people who do not. Judging a Toastmasters contest I saw a fascinating speech by a lady who taught herself to save by saving a quarter every day. As she continued her speech I began to think how can this be applied to the rest of our lives physically, spiritually and mentally? How was I already applying this? The truly happy people I have met in this world take great care to fulfill themselves in all three areas.
This is my cousin Roger “Wyze” Smith and his wife Joy-Ann Smith hitting the gym. On a particularly busy and stressful day in their lives they couldn’t hit the gym so they blasted us all with a pic of them putting in gym work right there in the living room. That’s how we put a quarter away every day for physical being. Not only that but they found a way to spend time together doing something positive for themselves which in turn will do something positive for them. The idea of spending time while working out together both feed into each other.
A funny thing happens when you are taking care of yourself physically. Your life energy begins to grow which turns the “not enough time in the day” attitude into looking for things to do to fill up your time. Now most people don’t take advantage of this by stimulating their mind and spirit so they have a lot more time to pick themselves apart. Others are focusing on one of the other areas besides the physical but experience a similar result. You have to feed all three areas of being period, it’s non negotiable to being truly happy.
Hey! (duck dynasty style) guess what life is hard for everyone I don’t know why people spend so much time doing nothing except sitting around trying to convince each other who’s life is harder instead of fixing it. Stress, responsibility and daily life take their toll on all of us which is why you need to put more in than those things can take away from you.
It’s simple math for personal growth to stay happy with yourself you have to make deposits into the bank of you than life can withdraw. You can’t look for this type of fulfillment in spouse, girlfriend, boyfriend, group of friends you have to find it within yourself. Divorce courts and the restraining order clerk at the courthouse can tell you just how well that philosophy works.
So what’s the point? A very short time after you start changing your habits to “Pay yourself first!” in any area of being (physically, spiritually or mentally) an amazing thing happens, you start to become the version of you that you have always wanted to be. The Wife, Mother, Father, Husband, Son, Daughter, Friend you have always wanted to be. You really have no idea how much you deserve to allow yourself to be those things.
Let’s take it back to the Smiths shown above. They are busy with work and kids, she has her things, he has things but they decided to do this together. That is important because these are the things that keep families together because you are keeping yourself a complete person. They just happen to be spending time with each other while doing it which on turn will be the catalyst for new and exciting things in their relationship.
Very few life accomplishments are made by leaps and bounds it’s from putting a quarter away at a time. Be willing to do the work, find a way! As “pay yourself first” in finance is the great separator between the wealthy and the poor so is it the great separator between the people who accomplish their goals and those who don’t.
When I am at the gym on the West Coast the Smiths are at the gym on the east coast. This got to be mutually supportive as they post pics on their Fb accounts and I as you all know I am a foursquare addict. At this point no one wants to be the one who fails to post something that day. Not only is this their time time but this is now family time too. See how it just keeps building?
Here is a small sample of my morning schedule for the single parents out there with excuses:
- 5AM at the gym (Workout I listen to a book on audible. During Cardio I read some religious work on my phone*)
- 6:15AM Home (Breakfast, Shower, Foreign language lesson, Program my Social Media Posts from morning news)
- 7:10AM Out the door (Morning laughs with my son in the car)
The first 2 hours of my day are dedicated to me. I don’t make any massive progress at these items in any particular day but I do manage to hit my mind body and soul before I become a functional part of this society. It really makes a big difference on whether you are happy to be alive or just trying to get through another day.
It doesn’t matter if you have a busy family life like the Smiths or you are a busy single parent like myself “Pay yourself first!” you don’t have to do it our way but you have to do it some way. Pick up that book, go back to school, walk into that church, learn that language just please take the first step towards something you have dreamed about doing. Trust me I know you all and you absolutely are worth the extra effort!.